The Guilt of the Passion-Seeker



Quite a titillating title, isn’t it? Now that I have your attention, let’s get to the REAL issue – the guilt that we can feel when we follow (or just anticipate following) our passions and dreams.

Recently, I discovered a beautiful quote from the Reverend Dr. Howard Thurman that I knew I had to share, so I posted it on Facebook. In case you missed it, here it is:

 “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive.

And then go and do that.

Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

This is why I knew I had to share this:                                                                                                                                         I often hear the following sentiment from people who struggle with the idea of living a life that is a reflection of their unique dreams and passions:

“But if I follow my dreams, I’m being selfish.”

And to be honest, the first time someone suggested that I embark on a personal journey to discover my passion and live it, I felt guilty about even considering it. Not only was I up against a cultural bias which had ingrained in me the value that other’s needs come before my own, but as soon as I started contemplating addressing my own desires, shrinking dollar signs immediately appeared in front of me, worries about neglecting my family nagged at me, and I quickly talked myself out of even considering the idea of discovering what my passion was, let alone live it.

However, another vague phrase from somewhere in my past kept niggling away at my consciousness, and it goes something like this: “If you’re no good to yourself, then you’re no good to anyone else”. There are many variations of this phrase, but the idea is basically the same. It’s about putting yourself first in the most elemental way so that you are “on purpose”, and able to do your best work. I’ve also heard it described this way: we are each an essential cog in the universal wheel of life, and if the cog is not doing what it was meant to do (its purpose), then the wheel doesn’t work properly. Read on……

Your Year for Change

A Better New Year For You

Whether or not you are a New Year’s resolution-maker, the start of a new year often feels like a good time to take stock of where you’ve been, and where you’d like to go. But there can be many obstacles holding us back from actually taking that journey, and we may not even be sure what that journey is.

A colleague of mine passed along the video below by Max Simon, which contains good, simple advice about the steps to take to figure it all out.  Although the title is “Frustrated At Work”, the ideas really pertain to all areas of your life.

Check out Max’s the full article, “Why You Need to Make Peace With 2014″.





Be Aware – Opening Your Senses to Your Inner and Outer Worlds

AwarenessTo some people, the word “awareness” may sound like one of those buzz words that are thrown around without much meaning.  This couldn’t be further from the truth.  Awareness is the key to effective and supportive communication, in developing compassion, in reducing stress, being assertive without being aggressive, developing and maintaining healthy relationships, and mindful living, to name a few. If you open your senses to the world around you, your awareness will bloom.

When you begin to pay attention,  focusing on something or someone, you are already developing awareness. Read on……

Failure – The Path to Success

Moving forward“I failed my way to success”

~Thomas Edison

I chuckled when I first read this quote from Thomas Edison.  Then, as I thought about it some more, I realized that this little 6-word quote contains a great commentary on our collective concept of failure


Read on……

The Difficult Decision


You’ve been there.  A decision needs to be made. You feel as though there are a million things to consider.  All kinds of questions race through your mind.  “What if I make the “wrong” decision?  Have I considered all of the possibilities?  How will my decision affect other people?  Will I be able to change my mind if I don’t like my decision?”

Your head is spinning, you feel anxious, and all you want to do is run.



Read on……

Our Unique Story – Live and Learn With Compassion

Your unique storyI ran across this post on Facebook.  It’s easy to get so wrapped up in our own stories that we forget that everyone has their own unique story.

Think of the times when you have looked at someone and made a quick assumption, quickly followed by judgment.  Did you look into that person’s eyes?  Did you touch their soul?  Did you hear their story?

Learn it with compassion.  Forgive with open-heartedness.. And above all, love.

Think Positive Words

The Discomfort of the Unknown

The unknownI was chatting with a close family member recently, and she described what a difficult time she was having making some decisions about what to do next in her life.  She was poised at a transition point and considering many variables, was consumed with the process – it occupied her thoughts throughout the day – and she was understandably exhausted.  I felt badly for her, because I knew that she felt extraordinarily uncomfortable in that limbo that often exists before you make big decisions.

Read on……

This Moment – This Reality

This moment-this reality

Today I am reprinting a post from the website Zen Habits, created by writer Leo Babauta. Leo is all about sharing his wisdom and insight – all of his website content is uncopyrighted.  He has such a clear, elegant way of expressing his concept and thoughts, that I know they will resonate with you!  Be well!

Read on……

The Difficult Conversation – An Opportunity for Personal Growth

ArgumentI was meeting with a colleague the other day, and she described an experience she had while trying to have a conversation with people who displayed some rigidity in their beliefs.  One of the challenges for her was that rigid thinking is the antithesis of who she is, so trying to have this conversation was very difficult. But she expressed how this also provided her with the opportunity to engage in a difficult discussion with gentleness.  As soon as she used those words, I stopped listening and started to REALLY pay attention. Read on……

Setting Your Goals With Intention

The path to fulfillmentOur society is very goal-oriented.  You identify a goal.  You make a plan to reach the goal.  You take steps to reach the goal.  You invariably encounter obstacles along the way.  You try to work through the obstacles.  Sometimes, you become discouraged and frustrated.  Sometimes you feel like quitting.  It’s often a struggle.  Could there be a better way of doing this? Yes! By using the power of intention. Read on……