“There is no condition so severe that you cannot reverse it by choosing different thoughts. However, choosing different thoughts requires focus and practise. If you continue to focus as you have been, to think as you have been, and to believe as you have been, then nothing in your experience will change”
~ from ‘Ask And It Is Given’ ~”
― Mary Ann Hickman
I had never quite “grokked” the concept of changing your thoughts – it seemed almost off-handed and flip. You know, like “Oh, come on, ALL you have to do is change your thoughts.” And then I read the above quote, and it suddenly made sense. This seems to be how insight often occurs for me, and maybe it does for you as well. After days, months, or sometimes years of experiencing the same situation over and over again, everything suddenly clicks into place, catalyzed by one tiny or large significant experience that pushes me over the edge into awareness. Read on……
In honor of Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, I would like to share just a few of my favorite quotes from this incredible human being.
That old law about ‘an eye for an eye’ leaves everybody blind. The time is always right to do the right thing.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.
We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools.
Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.
We may have all come on different ships, but we’re in the same boat now.
As the New Year approaches, our minds automatically turn towards the tradition of making a list of our resolutions for the coming year. I would like to suggest that we put self-care high up on that list. At the beginning of this post is a photo taken from the Facebook Page “Today I Will________”, whose “About” page contains the following description:
“Live life to the fullest by overcoming self-made obstacles and becoming the person you have always wanted to be.”
Wow. That one sentence contains the essence of what we all would love to have happen in our lives. It also represents what my life coaching practice, and the practices of other life coaches is all about!
When we make our resolutions, it can be so easy to put enormous pressure on ourselves to achieve what we have resolved to accomplish. When we stumble or don’t meet the expectations that we have set out in our resolutions, we are often hard on ourselves, feeling that we have somehow failed in our attempts to be better at whatever we resolved to do. Don’t forget that the value of making changes in your life lies in the process itself. Be kind to yourself.
Happy New Year!
I have to admit that I “borrowed” the title of this post – “Choose again” – from Tama Kieves’, who taught us this mantra during her workshop: “Unleash Your Calling: An Intensive to Create the Work and Life You Love”. Two simple words that hold quite a lot of meaning.
“I’m too old to apply for that job.”
“She hasn’t answered my e-mail yet, so she must not be interested.”
“I’ll never be able to lose weight.”
If this sounds familiar (as in, you’ve either uttered similar words or held similar beliefs), then you are not alone. Many of us do this without realizing that we’re getting in our own way – we have become our own obstacle!
I recently asked a friend how she was doing, and she answered “hanging in there”. Now granted, this was all e-email communication, so I couldn’t hear her tone of voice, nor see her facial expressions or body language. But since she is a friend, I was pretty sure I had a good idea of what the subtext of that three-word-comment was: “I’m barely getting by. Just making it. I’m not happy with things, but there’s not much I can do about it, so I’ll have to put up with it because I don’t feel as though I have much of a choice.”
Think about it. How often have you uttered those three words in response to someone asking how you’re doing? And why do you think you do that? Read on……
I’m sure the title of this blog post got your attention! Before I go into that in more detail, I’d like to share some great news with you. Today marks the official birth of my coaching specialty: stress management life coaching! Those of you who know me or who have read my blog posts know that stress management is an area in which I have had great interest for quite a while. I co-created and co-facilitated a stress reduction workshop with Tom Sterner, best-selling author of The Practicing Mind: Developing Focus and Discipline in Your Life, at a local university, and I coach clients through stress in all areas of their lives.
I was recently interviewed by Lynn Crocker, host of Create Your Reality radio show, broadcast on the Amazing Women of Power Radio Network on Monday, April 15th. Lynn and I talked in-depth about the topic of one of my recent blog posts: Planning With Intention. In lieu of a new post, I would like to invite you to listen to the interview!
You can check out the podcast anytime here:
Create Your Reality Blog: Create Your Reality Radio Show Interview. Or you can listen to it on this website: Create Your Reality Radio Show Interview
Lynn is also a life coach, and we share a similar passion: to support people through their self-discovery process. Lynn is a fun and engaging host, and I know you will enjoy listening to the interview!
You may have read the title of this blog post, scratched your head, and wondered, “What does THAT mean? Of course I live my life on purpose. How else could I live my life…… by accident, unintentionally?” The answer is, yes, and we all do or have lived this way at some point in our lives. So let’s explore this idea of living your life on purpose. Read on……
Talk about inspiration is everywhere: Wayne Dyer provides a roadmap on how to get from spirit to inspiration in his book Inspiration: Your Ultimate Calling. Deepak Chopra says that the best way to relate to your brain is to inspire it, and offers a “Daily Inspiration” through his website: www.chopra.com/dailyinspiration. The New York Times Magazine recently released an inspiration issue. We hear the phrases “living your inspiration”, “finding your inspiration”, and “wake up to your inspiration” on many self-help, inspirational, and coaching websites (including mine), and in many books of the same nature.